the importance of being realistic

positivity is something that sometimes, really bugs me. i am all for being happy, achieving growth, and focusing on the good. however, i think that being optimistic all the time just isn't realistic. when something goes wrong, saying things like "well at least i'm not homeless!", etc., , in my opinion, don't bring anything to the situation. like yeah! okay, you're not homeless, and that's great, but i mean, so what? how does that have anything to do with the situation at hand? it's important to be grateful, and i try to list 3 things i'm grateful for every day, but i think that sometimes you just have to admit that a situation sucks. just allow yourself to be like wow, this sucks, this isn't fun. and then, move on. get over it. figure out a solution. allow yourself to feel everything towards the situation, and voice it, whether it's to a friend or to a journal. and then, sit down, figure out a solution, and move forward. i think that positivity can sometimes lead to hiding ones true feelings towards a situation, and those emotions can dwell, and it can be hard to move on. i don't think anyone should ever tell anyone how to think or feel. so allow yourself to do that, to feel, but don't let it stick. feel it enough to let it go. and then, the most important thing is to move on from it. solve the problem. just move on. don't pretend that it's okay when it's not. don't just 'look on the bright side'. let it hurt, then let it go. be real about how it makes you feel. then move forward, & heal.